Your Story
Your Story. The story we tell of ourselves of whom we are and whom we are not. You can see your life as a book, the first chapters define the characters, the middle chapter builds up and excites and you wonder how it all will end up, and finally the ending, will it be good or bad?
You enter the world with a book of blank pages, the first pages (first 7 years) are mostly written by others, after that you will be the writer, you decide what kind of book it should be, what kind of ending do you want?
The stories we tell
We all have a story. The story is made up of memories and experiences colored by our perception of the world around us, it has been run through our own judgmental filter, colored by our programming.
How your story goes can be very different from the story told by a person who might have been in the experience with you. For you a certain memory can be the most defining in your life, for those that might have been there with you at the time, it was a moment like any other.
Have you heard your story, have you actually listened to what it is you are saying? I believe you have had plenty of chances as we often tell the story to ourselves or to others to justify our actions, or lack of the same. Your story often holds limiting beliefs, that you have got so used to telling yourself that you think they are true.
To make your impossible possible you need to start looking at your story and those limiting beliefs. The “I cannot…” or “I’m not good enough, strong enough, beautiful enough, clever enough” It is not true, it is something you been told, started believing and living by, you have confirmed the story to yourself enough times for it to be embodied in your system.
You can so much more than you believe you can. I think that you sometimes hear a little voice inside that says “Yes I can, Yes I am…” but to act on it is scary, because what will others think?
What story do you want to tell?
Find paper and pen and start writing. Write down the story you tell of and to yourself, the words you describe yourself with.
Write down all the limiting beliefs you tell yourself whenever you e.g. get a new idea, are asked to do something for someone, someone asks who you are. If you can't think of any, test yourself with setting yourself a goal outside of your comfort zone then you will you soon hear them all appearing in your mind.
Start rewriting those limiting/negative beliefs. Change the negative “I cannot…”, I’m not…” to a positive “I can…”, “I am…”
Look at your story – what do you want the next chapters to contain, try to write the chapter for the next year – what are your goals, how will you feel when you reach them. Be bold, step out of your comfort zone, dream big.
Read your story to yourself and the new positive beliefs regularly to start replacing the negative beliefs and the story of what you are not.
Make it a dynamic process. Give yourself time to reflect.
Remember…
You don’t see the world as it is…you see the world as you are!